23/01/2025
Life has a way of teaching us through its twists and turns, and looking back on my journey, I realize how fleeting and fragile it truly is. Family, once thought indestructible, changes over time—some members pass on, others move away, and the connections that once seemed so strong sometimes fade. Losing my dad, Mario, whom I was so alike (he called me Ponty), my Granny Milly with her unforgettable shortbread, and my Uncle Ken, whose fishing trip I'll never forget, has left an ache I often block instead of mourning. The loss of my sister Noo-Noo still cuts deep—what a sister she was. I miss her dearly every single day. And then there’s Dom-Dom—nobody truly knew the connection we shared, but his loss weighs heavily on my heart. I’ll never forget Uncle Alfred, Monty and Cindy’s dad, who was there for Dom-Dom in Eshowe. Dom-Dom always had stories of how Uncle Alfred was there for him when he was a little naughty. His support and care meant so much.
My siblings—Angie, Marco, and Jason—are still a part of my story, as is my mom Shirley, who held our family together through thick and thin. I love her dearly. Then there’s Michelle and her daughters—my nieces Ashley, Danielle, and Taylor. Each of them adds something special to our family. Their laughter, their energy, and the bond they share with Michelle remind me of how family grows and evolves. I hope they know how much they mean to me.
My children, Justin and Kay-Lee, are far away now, and though life hasn’t always been smooth, I still hold onto hope for them. Justin has his brother Stevie, his sister Kathleen, and his nephew Keagan—family that I hope will always remain close. Louise and Kathleen being there for Keagan will make him a great young man, just like Louise did with all her kids.
Time and distance have spread our family, yet in my heart, everyone—cousins, nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles—holds a special place. I wish I had done more, reached out more, been there more. My past and choices have shaped me, sometimes hardening me in ways I regret. But through it all, I carry a love for my family, whether they are close or far. To those still here, those I’ve lost, and those I’ve drifted from, I want you to know—you are always in my thoughts. My shielded heart may not always show it, but my love remains.
